Peaches Update: Death from Heroin OD

This is a follow up post to an earlier post on the tragic death of Peaches Geldof at age 25 with her young child next to her. I had played celebrity death sleuth but was incorrect in my assessment.

Legacy of addiction gets handed down like family estates and jewelry. Her mother overdosed at age 41 with a child at her side, and our Peaches recreates the scene 14 years later, except she was only 25.

Do we all become our parents? I think not.
Are we helpless to go on repeating the past, whether it is an addiction or a pattern of thinking and behaving?

This is why therapy needs to be part of every recovery process. Addiction isn't just the physical and psychological dependence. There exists a core conflict, our defining wound which originates in childhood. The resulting pain, whether psychological or spiritual or both, is what we attempt to dull with our substance(s) of choice.

Through therapy and/or spiritual reflection, we can become more aware, more in tune with our subconscious, so that we are less likely to act out, or behave unconsciously, and repeat what we know or become the parents whom we feel let us down.

http://www.thefix.com/content/peaches-geldof-reportedly-died-heroin-overdose

Peaches Geldof: Eating Disorders and Body Dysmorphic Disorder

Peaches Honeyblossom Geldof March 13, 1989-April 7, 2014

Peaches Geldof died the other day. Autopsy results are still pending, but given her family history, many, including myself, are guessing that it's related to drugs and/or eating disorder. She was just 25. Horrifyingly, next to her body was her 11-month old son. When PG's mother died, her half sister, a baby at the time, was also found next to their mother who had overdosed from heroin.

PG had gone off radar, at least for me, for a few years, during which she seemed to have grown up —she had gotten married and became a young mother two young boys. Before this she was primarily known for being an English party girl famous for her druggy antics and her father.

I couldn't help knowing who she was just as I know Paris, Lindsay and Brittney. I've given up being resentful about celebrity culture and accepted that this is the pop culture we deserve; we celebrate the famous for just being famous.

In PG's case she was the daughter of Sir. Geldof. For anyone who came of age in the 80's, his name is difficult not to remember. Her mother, Paula Yates, died from a heroin overdose three years after the "suicide" of Michael Hutchence, the INXS singer, another difficult name to ignore from the same era. And as mentioned earlier, Yates' body was found in bed with her youngest daughter.

I am not interested in focusing on celebrities, but these occasional tragedies provide access points to discuss finer points about the nature of addiction and different forms it can take. Her mother was also diagnosed with an eating disorder (anorexia, bulimia, or dependence on stimulants to lower appetite or misuse of laxatives?), so the issue of "heritability" of addiction can be discussed, not just addiction to alcohol and drugs, but behavioral addictions. And is there a positive correlation between early trauma and addiction later on? (My answer? Duh.) Here is an ominous last interview she gave to The Independent, an English newspaper.

In my work, mostly I deal with addictions to drugs and alcohol. But over the years, I've encountered a few clients with eating disorders and body dysmorphic disorder (BDD). Always, these food-related, self-image centered issues were just one part of a larger cluster of addictive behaviors to drugs, alcohol, sex and self-defeating relationships (both romantic and social), in addition to poor self-esteem and a history of early loss of a parent, divorce, parental neglect, emotional abuse, and sometimes sexual abuse. Working with these clients (I am not an expert in eating disorders, btw) it felt as if one's body was the easiest, most readily controllable target onto which to transfer unprocessed negative feelings and memories, all of which take time and lots difficult work. Rather than looking inward to dig at the source of pain, eating disorders and BDD forces the body, and ultimately the self, to take all the blame.

History of substance addiction in the Geldof clan is well known, and the experience of losing one's mother at a young age to addiction without the privacy that is afforded to ordinary people, would have made any young woman susceptible and fragile to becoming self-conscious.

Ultimately, I feel PG's addiction to drugs and alcohol was replaced with pathological obsession/addiction to her weight and appearance, and partly at fault is the celebrity industrial complex, whatever that is exactly.

My heart goes out to the two young children who've just lost their mother, as well as rest of Peaches' family and friends.