How We Learn to Self-Medicate

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It is said that in any AA or NA meeting 60% of its group members will have experienced some form of abuse (physical, emotional or sexual) as a child. Childhood abuse is a good indicator of later substance abuse and addiction. 

Recently I posted about ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Study which showed that early adverse experiences, or traumas, predict adult physical and mental health problems that ultimately lead to early death. Adult substance abuse is one such consequence, in addition to smoking and obesity.

In this context, I've been thinking a lot of about validation. To validate simply means recognizing another person's experience of an emotion and their reaction.

If a friend is crying because his dog recently died, I would validate by saying something like "I see that you are really sad" or "You are really missing Buster." In my wanting to help, I might instinctively want to problem solve or advise him so he feels less hurt. I will get there, but first and foremost I acknowledge that his sadness is real and valid.

Imagine a little girl falls and scrapes her knee, and she cries. Her mother or caretaker hopefully will say something like "Oh, no, you fell. Come and let me look at it" or "Let me see. I think it's going to be okay." Both statements indirectly validate that an accident has happened and that the little girl's reaction is valid. But, another parent might simply order the child to stop crying, or say something like "I told you not to run" or "This is what happens when you misbehave by running." 

In a dysfunctional or abusive family, a child's feelings and reactions are invalidated, as the latter examples illustrate. It doesn't seem so bad when looking at just one example, but when it is long-established pattern, parental invalidation teaches the child that her feelings, especially negative ones, can't and shouldn't be felt or expressed. 

The same girl might grow to ignore, disregard, deny or avoid her feelings, especially uncomfortable ones like sadness, anger, shame, guilt, boredom, loneliness, even though they are part of every person's experience.

Enter alcohol and drugs, which in the short-term help her avoid unpleasant feelings. Repeat this way of coping and a dependence and addiction develops. And a cycle of self-medication begins: Immediate relief from unpleasant feelings followed by intensification of those feelings, and so on...

Watch Now! Russell Brand: From Addiction to Recovery

Russell Brand is one celebrity who is pretty cool. This isn't the first time I've written about him. I can respect him because he uses his fame to bring attention to the problem of addiction and benefits of meditation and yoga.

So I was happy to discover that after Amy Winehouse’s death from alcohol withdrawal, Brand made a short documentary with BBC about addiction and recovery. And The Guardian published a moving eulogy he wrote for her.

Discovering this short doc (about an hour long) several years late does not diminish its significance. Brand discusses with experts about opiate replacement therapy. At times, he can be overbearing and appears fixated on his recovery process. However, Brand’s narcissism is tolerable, because he argues that for addicts like himself it's abstinence or death.

He argues against methadone saying it’s an opiate replacing heroin, which means that the addict is not drug free, and an addict wiI am certain he would criticize Suboxone since it too is a synthetic opiate prescribed to curb cravings and withdrawal symptoms, just like methadone. The difference is that Suboxone is prescribed by a psychiatrist, as opposed to daily pick ups at a methadone clinic, so it no longer carries the stigma of having to drop in every morning at your local MMTP (Methadone Maintenance Treatment Program).

An addict, Brand stresses, must be free of all drugs, although whether he includes psychotropic medications, it’s unclear. Both AA and NA agree with Brand; and they consider prescription medications as drugs. Therefore, an AA member who is prescribed medication, for say depression and anxiety, is not drug free or abstinent. I find problem with this, because so many people struggling with substance abuse suffer from underlying mental illness. 

What are your thoughts?